Thursday, June 15, 2006

In a New York state of mind!!

The thing about breast cancer is that nobody knows how you feel, I mean really feel, deep down.

A fab thing has happened since Gordon and I started this blog- I can chat to lovely, amazing people who DO know how I feel. They may have or are recovering from breast cancer but we all have had the same thoughts at one time or another.

I now e-mail reguarly a lady in New York who is pretty much on the same path as I am. We were diagnosed at the same time and are going thro' very similar treatment regimes. She is good fun and her e-mails always make me feel 'Hey am not alone!'

One of the refreshing things about this is that we are very different ( apart from the fact we both have horrible curly hair, which come to think of it won't be a problem in a few weeks!)

She is a career girl with no children while I am a Mum to 4 childern and 4 step childern and also run a buisness from home. We have different lives in so many ways but have become friends because of breast cancer. Not really the way I'd ever have thought of striking up a friendship but there you go!! Life IS strange.

I wouldn't wish chemo on my worst enemy ( honestly!) but it is nice to know I can chat to someone who might be feeling the way I'm feeling while having toxic chemicals pumped into us.

Someone told me to think of chemo as a golden elixir flowing thro' my viens to heal me. Great visualisation if you can manage it and I'm going to give it my best shot.

Golden elixir, golden elixir, golden elixir, gold...........hey it's working..........!

Marjory

7 comments:

abigail said...

marjory,

i like the golden elixir...someone told me that she visualized chemo as little pac men eating up any stray cancer cells...that works too!

Next week I (we) start chemo. I still haven't gotten a wig yet... I was thinking of just going around bald, but I don't think the people at my job (tres conservative) would get it...

anyway, I'm glad to have found you and your blog too!

Lor (abigail)

Metro Atlanta, Georgia’s Real Estate Industry! said...

A very good friend of our family went through breast cancer at the age of 33. She is doing well and cancer free! Hang in there and the best is yet to come!!!

Graham said...

I had Hodgkins Disease, cancer of the lymph nodes when I was 21, and imagined the treatment as a long distance race, with each treatment being like a hurdle in a 3,000m steeplechase. I knew approx how many treatments I was going to have (about 12) and 'mapped them' on a mind race track. I don't know why, but I found it incredibly helpful to get over each round of treatment.

Also rather than the 'toxic chemicals' idea, think of them in a positive light, as, I don't know, pixies that are chomping away at the cancer cells, or whatever metaphor you want to use: but look on them as something positive that is going to help cure you, rather than something that has a negative image

la lene said...

Hey Marjory,

A quick comment to tell you to be strong. My mum had a breast cancer at 40 in 1994. She's been through hard times.

But she succeeded and cancer is now a souvenir, it's over. 12 years passed.

Hand in here !

Barb said...

Ahhh, sigh of relief. I'm not alone. I will be starting chemo in a couple weeks too, it seems. Right now I'm moving and well, it is International Week of Denial so, I won't bore you with my cancer details. I've got three kids, am moving and dealing with cancer crap. I look forward to following your blog.
Cheers,
Barb

pug100 said...

i my name is bev and i was diagnosed with breast cancer in january of 2006 I had a double mascectomy and removal of 12 positive nodes. I had some pain for a day and went to the doctor but never any other pain just one day Im on my last chemo this week and then I start the pill for 5yrs they also want to do radation but I dont think IM going to do that I feel it really bad stuff Im not sure If Im right but I feel Im doing the right thing and I feel very positive and I feel great. thanks for listening
bev

Anonymous said...

Marjory,

I'm so glad to have found this blog. Thanks for posting your thoughts. I had excision biopsy just last May 1, and after seeking a second opinion on the breast cancer, I am scheduling my chemo treatments to start hopefully this June.

I'm looking for a wig, and trying to keep my lip from trembling but at the same time, trying to reassure my parents, my friends that the chemo is the treatment needed :)

Best of luck to you, and I hope to keep in touch!

Anna